This year has been a complete bag of surrendering, leaving, grieving, learning, becoming and being all wadded up in a huge ball of emotions.

As a matter of fact, it’s been a Feast of change.  Through it all, I’ve been following Martha Beck's Joy Diet and writing about how to create positive change rather than just survive it.  How appropriate that "Feasting" is the final chapter at the end of 2009!  Because that’s just the type of year it has been.

Quick Clarification:  Not "Feasting" as in joyful food consumption.  Feasting as in savoring life.  Celebrating the good and the sad, embracing your feelings (rather than stuffing them down with food) and being grateful for each morsel of laughter.

For kicks, let's recap.

During 2009, I...

• Gave up the “golden handcuffs,” left my safe, life-long career and launched my own business.
  (Favorite questions: “In this economy?  Are you crazy?”)
• Became a Certified Weight Coach.
  (After coaching, being coached and shedding 25 pounds in 2008.)
• Watched the “safe” company I just left fold.
  (Security blanket named “I-can-go-back-if-this-doesn’t-work-out” gone.)
• Became a Certified Martha Beck Life Coach.
  (Again… after coaching, being coached and dissolving 75 pounds of mental garbage in 2008.)
• Fell totally in love with my clients, fellow coaches and the art of coaching.
  (And not in a weird, co-dependent way.  In an “I love seeing people do their thing” way.)
• Lost another 8 pounds by being in love with life (as opposed to dieting).
• Grieved the passing of my Grandfather.
• Co-authored and launched The Grown-Up Girl’s Guide to Weight Loss with fellow coach Bridgette Boudreau.
• Spent a summer with flexible work hours and playing with my kids!
  (For an ex-workaholic, this was as frightening as it was joyful.)
• Launched Square3Coaching.com with fellow coach Nona Jordan.
• Enrolled in Pam Slim and Michele Woodward’s Kick Ass Mentoring to help ramp up my marketing.
• Got mired in a brief, yet uncomfortable, state of stuckness.

Stuckness.

One day, after I rambled about being in this state of stuck, Michele innocently blurted that there is a big mental shift between “becoming” a coach and “being” one.

Eureka.

This phase of career transition is very obvious unless it's hiding in your blind spot.  Being stuck in the middle of “becoming” something new and “being” that new thing is like having one foot in a canoe and another in a kayak and wondering why it’s tough to stay steady.  You do your thing and look calm on the outside, but your core being is continuously working to not get wet.

This, in a nutshell, is why I believe the art of coaching is so powerful.  With that fleeting comment, the act of “naming the stuck” transported me mentally from the cocoon of “becoming” to the flight of “being.”  The roadblock vanished and I was on a path where I really owned my new career.

Note that it was a path and not a destination.  There’s a lot of “becoming” that I still want to do and I pray that never changes.  There is, though, a relief in “being” where I am in this moment and knowing that is perfect and sufficient.

So for the year to come…

I heard a brilliant coach (Martha Beck) say (dozens of times) that to be great at something, you have to “live it to give it.”  Seek out learning, grow with experience and pass it on.  Which sounds, to me, like rolling “becoming” and “being” into a business plan grounded with integrity.

And that’s exactly what I plan to do in 2010.

It doesn’t escape me that

1. I’ve maintained a 33 pound weight loss through some major life changes.
   - EVEN BETTER -
2. It never occurred to me that I might regain it again.  My day is no longer eaten up with a battle in my brain around food and my body.**
   - AND –
3. I am still working down to my “natural weight.”
   - AND –
4. I plan to get there (wherever “there” is) in 2010.

It’s a perfect spot for the New Year!

My 2010 intention is to revamp and share all of the tools that are working for me as I use them.  They worked for the first 33 pounds.  They’ll work for you too.

I’ll also share any wild hair experiments that succeed or fail.  I’m human and curious and still get off the beaten path to try a new idea or read a hot book.

My hunch, though, is that the good, sound coaching methods will create success again.  That’s where I’d place my wagers.

What are your intentions for 2010?  How do you plan to Feast?
I'd love to know so I can place my wagers on them too!

** This is, honestly, why I chose to begin with Weight Coaching even though it made more sense (on paper) for me to be a Career Reinvention Coach.*  Undoing my overeating and overworking habits were the first step in following my dreams.  It works.  And I believe in paying things forward that work.

* Part of my "becoming" plan for 2010.  Seems logical to do both!  First get your road blocks out of the way (your over-eating or your over-working or your over-whatever-your-drug-of-choice-is).  Then go after your real work in the world.  And you can do this part before reaching your "natural weight."  I'm living proof. 

“No one can play a game alone.  One cannot be human by oneself.”
- James P. Carse, Finite and Infinite Games

Amen.

Connection is Martha Beck’s 9^th menu item on The Joy Diet.  This chapter, no matter how many times I read it, is the one that moves me the most.

Real soul-deep connection with others is frightening, yet counter-intuitively the most effective way to remain secure.

On the down side, allowing love to flow unconditionally will guarantee that you will be hurt.  But, as Martha points out, "as long as you never react by cutting off your willingness to love, you will always – always – emerge from these situations with more capacity for joy than you took into them.”

Due to the downside, I was afraid of this type of connection for a long, long time.  My belief (even though I didn’t consciously realize it) was that food was the “safe” friend and a connection to better feelings.

What a lie.

For a fleeting second, I would feel better by eating the chocolate hidden in the sock drawer.  Then I would berate myself for succumbing to unhealthy habits.  I was no more a friend to myself than the food was.

Then I went on The Joy Diet. I began to sit still with myself, listen to the truth about how I felt and take risks to get what I really wanted.

ALL of that meant building a real connection with myself first.  Connecting over and over…  move forward, second guess, trust in the connection with my soul, laugh, move forward...

And in that cycle, I got it.

The magic happens when you connect with your inner peace AND with others at the same time.

Unconditional love lives in this place.  It's where you are fully present, inwardly truthful about what you want and then take the risk to openly communicate about it in your relationships.

I had a client e-mail me today with a gorgeous, sweet example of how you can’t help but be totally in love with someone else when you’re fully present with your own soul.

…this morning, as annoyed as I was that my daughter woke up super early and totally killed my alone time, I stayed present with the joy of having someone so incredibly happy to see me and snuggle with me every day.    Laughter and joy indeed.

There’s an old saying about connection that goes something like this… "There's a ripple effect in all that we do. What you do touches me. What I do touches you.”

If there’s going to be a ripple effect… by golly, I want to feel it.  In the center of the ripple can be the calm, the connection to everyone else.  The rings can spread the energy you and I bring to the table.

The energy doesn't always have to be generated from life changing movement and cliff jumping risks.  It can be as sweet and peaceful as a snuggle with a child when she's taken the unknown risk of interrupting your best laid plans.

Love that.

How much better do you feel after a good belly laugh?

One that catches your breath and you have a hard time breathing.  Which just makes everyone else laugh harder, to the point that it becomes contagious.  Tables across the room in the restaurant can’t help but turn around and wonder what’s up.  And in the “When Harry Met Sally” fashion, they pronounce… “I'll have what she’s having.”

It’s sad that we, as adults, sometimes forget to play, and subsequently, forget to laugh.  Yet, it’s so important that Martha Beck dedicated menu item #8 in The Joy Diet to a good guffaw.  Not a single giggle, though.  Thirty or more a day.

That good fun energy does more than just make you smile.  There’s all kinds of scientific evidence that it will simply make you healthier.  Laughter will stimulate the brain to release feel good hormones that will help your mind and body function more efficiently.

An abundance of laughter can also help you lose weight.

When you ask for the Super Size or eat anything made by Little Debbie, it’s usually not due to physical hunger, but because you’re on a quest to feel better.  Next time you’re looking for something to emotionally feed you, try consuming laughter instead.

Two of those feel good hormones are dopamine and endorphins.  Endorphins are capable of a pain relieving narcotic effect and dopamine raises your happiness levels.  The more you replace emotional food inhalation with laughter, the more these hormones will help reinforce in your brain that laughter is an excellent substitute for Cinnamon Buns ice cream.

Better yet… laughter doesn’t come with that nasty sugar crash and mental backlash that a box of Girl Scout Thin Mints will induce.

So…

How do you come up with thirty things to laugh at a day?
Especially when Thanksgiving is right around the corner and many of us get to endure family drama that puts the fun back into dysfunctional.

First – Change your mind. Look at the pieces of the dysfunction or the things that cause you stress.  Which pieces are actually funny when you detach the facts from the embellished stories?  Can you laugh at how predictably each member in the drama assumes his or her role?

Second – Stop taking yourself so seriously. This doesn’t mean that you love yourself less.  Laughing at yourself actually allows you release the perfection hook and love yourself more.

Third – Surround yourself with laugh outlets. You know what makes you chuckle.  Seek it out.  Ellen DeGeneres makes a living making people laugh every afternoon.  Here’s one clip that I love because it pokes fun at the crazy things we buy in an attempt to beat ourselves thin.

If this is your type of funny, meet me back here often.  Join the “Lite Thoughts for a Lite Life” group on Facebook for other links.  When I find something that makes me laugh, I’ll pass it along.  If you find something, e-mail it to me and I'll share.  (jennifer (at) litethoughts (dot) com)

Laughing sounds so much more fun than dieting, doesn't it?

ps - Non-family friendly stuff will still help my daily laugh ration, but it might not get published.

pps - This is the 9th installment in the "Diet for Your Soul" blog series.  I was ready for some title variety.

Play is the place where, if you’re doing it right, you stop taking life so damn seriously.

It is also essential to maintaining your sanity and losing weight.

I forgot this minor detail for about twenty years.  Menu item #7 in Martha Beck’s The Joy Diet* reminded me that I could think of 99% of my daily routine as play.  So I changed my thinking.

You can too.

If you engage in play, or lighten your thoughts, your mind become less heavy.  Do this consistently and your body will lighten too.  Life becomes more about the happy and less about the struggle.

So…
How do you increase your play when you have to work every waking hour?

Here are four of the steps from The Joy Diet:

First, define your real career.
Not what you do in the cubicle.  What you do in life.  Ask yourself these questions:

• "When your life is over, how do you want the world to be different – in large ways or small – because you have lived?"
• "What experiences must you have to feel you’ve lived a completely satisfying life?"

Make a list.  The things on that list are what make up your REAL career.  Only these activities.  Everything else is stuff you do to prepare for it, ignore it, sabotage or support it.

Second, surrender to the idea that life is a game.
Just because there's a paycheck attached doesn't mean it can't be play. Almost everything (outside of death and taxes) can be like playing a game if you reframe your thoughts around it.   Think about it…

• Your REAL Career – the game of meaning
• Work – the game of strategy
• Marriage – the game of love
• Parenting – the game of learning, diapers and teenage drama

Step back and think of the strategy you use to navigate the games you play each day.  When played with integrity and laughter, the games in your world can be less stressful and more joyful.  Even in that cubicle.

Third, ask whether the games you are playing serve you.
If you are not having fun or it’s distracting you from your real life’s work, consider switching games.  If it's your teammates ruining the fun, switch to another team.   It’s not play if you don’t love the ones you’re with.

And... I added one more point since I like to play infinite games.

Fourth, are you playing for the sake of winning or for the joy of the game?
Either is fine and both can be fun.  Yet, how often have you found that playing to win creates a lot of stress and only fleeting joy?  I'm after something more sustainable.

I'm on a quest for infinite games and players.
The idea came from James P. Carse’s “Finite and Infinite Games.” Here are the phrases that struck me:

• “A finite game is played for the purpose of winning, an infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play."
• "Finite players play within boundaries; infinite players play with boundaries."
• "Surprise causes finite play to end; it is the reason for infinite play to continue."
• "The finite play for life is serious; the infinite play of life is joyous."
• "The joyfulness of infinite play, its laughter, lies in learning to start something we cannot finish.”

That laughter of infinite play is menu item #8.  Meet you back here next week for some unending fun.

In the meantime…

Are you a player?

*  This is the 8th post in a blog series based on Martha Beck's The Joy Diet.  Previous posts discussed:
Doing Nothing, Truth, Desire, Creativity, Risk and Treats.  The next post will be on Laughter.  My favorite!

Menu Item #6 on The Joy Diet is Treats.  The original schedule was to write about this on Halloween.  That would have been oh, so predictable, though.

For the record, I love Halloween and fully appreciate the creation of Special Dark Nuggets and Take 5 candy bars.  I also believe in never settling for sub-par joy food.  If you’re going to eat it, eat the stuff that makes you drool.  If you’re really in the mood to splurge, actually allow yourself to enjoy it.  Before, during and after.

The main reason why I’m not focusing on the candy treats of Halloween is because The Joy Diet definition is so much broader.  A treat, in this context, is anything that makes you spontaneously smile.  It doesn’t have to cost money, take much time or expand your waist line.

Here’s the idea:  Every day, give yourself at least three really good smile inducing treats.  One in the morning, one in the afternoon and one after every risk you take.  No excuses.  Especially if your first reaction is “How self indulgent is that?!”  If you feel guilty at the thought of treat abundance, you can smile in private.  It’s so much more fun, though, to share the smile with others.

In the pursuit of permanent weight loss, treats are a must.

But wait… don’t you generally “cut out” treats when you try to lose weight?
Yet, reducing your treat intake is NOT part of the Joy Diet.  What to do?

Increase your number of non-edible treats each day in direct proportion to the number of "not-hungry-but-still-eating-for-some-reason" snacks you take out.

Since emotional eating is often disguised as a well deserved reward, advance preparation of a list of emotional calming treats is a must.  When you think “I deserve a tasty treat,” go to this list.  Often.

For example, I have found that listening to classical piano music works better than ice cream to calm my nerves.  (Despite my initial defiance that this couldn’t possibly be true.)

If you need some idea sparkers, here are some treats I’ve consumed this past week by using The Joy Diet’s “Catalog of Sensory Delights” outline.

I love the sight of:

• our camellias blooming in November.
• pictures of my kids with that “I love you mom” smile.
• my to do list written in silver Sharpie on bright red paper.
• our puppy running home at full speed, ears flying, for a treat.
• the sunrise over the mountains out our back window.

I love the feel of:

• a cool breeze.
• my son playing with my fingers as he falls asleep.
• “doing nothing” in the morning and feeling my brain relax.
• my muscles relax after doing yoga. (For the first time!)
• a bear hug from my husband.

I love the smell of:

• good coffee.
• a rose.
• firewood burning in the fire place.
• fresh baked pecan pie.
• fresh cut Fraser fir trees.

I love the sound of:

• classical piano music.
• my kids laughing.
• the whole family laughing at America’s Funniest Home Videos.
• firewood crackling in the fire place.
• toe tapping music.

I love the taste of:

• that fresh baked pecan pie.
• in season berries.
• a double tall soy latte.
• homemade, salted, hot sweet potato fries.
• my mom’s cheese grits.

Yes.  Include taste.  But sidetrack this piece of the list when the treat isn't a treat, but a dodging device for a heavy emotion.

I also added
I love the thought of:

• pointing my snow skis over the edge and letting gravity take hold.
• how I’ve reinvented my life this past year.
• my new like-minded friends.
• the connections & reconnections with old friends.
• knowing that everything I decide to do from this moment on is my choice.

Note… what’s fun for me might not be fun for you.

Make up your own list.  What brings a smile to your face?

Lather in smiles.  Rinse.  Repeat.

The only rule for menu #5 on the Joy Diet is that it has to scare the pants off of you.  Or involve escape of some sort from the status quo.

Any tiny step will do.  As long as it includes walking up to fear, staring it in the eyeballs and saying hello.

Why in the world would you want to do that on purpose?

To break free from "comfortable" and make your dreams come true.

If you’ve been following this blog series on The Joy Diet, you have uncovered a heart’s desire and been noodling on some creative ideas about how to reach it.   Taking a risk and putting those ideas into action often comes coupled with the fear.  It’s where the rubber meets the road and the action toward your desire requires a leap of faith.  A leap of faith that might have already been met with stall tactics, stunted by fear and stuffed down with cookies.

For some people, allowing the feeling of fear to settle in their body is the first tiny step. Allowing any feeling to settle, for that matter, could be a starting point.

Let’s use the desire to lose weight permanently as an example.  If you gained weight due to emotional eating tendencies, my guess is that the idea of not eating to immediately calm a powerful emotion (like fear) can be just as scary as jumping out of a plane with an untested parachute.

If this is the case, allowing yourself to FEEL FEAR for a few minutes without eating can change your life.

Other tiny steps could include contacting someone you admire in your desired field if you want to change careers.

If you don’t want to go to a social engagement, say no.  Even if social pressure says you should.

If you do, say yes.  Even if you’re shy.

And, by all means, attend your next high school or college reunion.

I stepped twenty years back in time to my Rhodes College days this past weekend.  I relived memories that had been suppressed, faced friends who know way too much about my past and felt every insecure emotion well up as if I were 18 again.  All without the “I’m-going-to-live-forever" invincibleness of a teenager to offset those less than stable thoughts.

Sounds painful.  Why in the world would I do this?

One of my heart’s desires is to stay connected with my dear true friends.  I am learning not to let fear get in the way of an opportunity to hug them and have in-person, soul-filling catch up time.   Facebook is wonderful, but it just isn’t the same as laughing together over old and new memories.

As an added bonus, I was able to meet the grown up version of many wonderful people who I, otherwise, might have never seen again.  I also met the grown up version of me working backwards through my story of the past twenty years.  I am so grateful for that story… insecurities and all.

Take a risk.

As my friend and mentor Michele Woodward says, “Expand your comfort zone.”

Move toward something that fills your heart.

I dare you!

Creativity.
Welcome to the fourth menu item on The Joy Diet.

This is the point where I almost stopped reading the first time through.  This was two years ago when I was a self proclaimed left brained person, in a left brained job with the creativity of dry wall.

Then I realized that this didn’t HAVE to mean artistic creation with paint or throwing clay.  This meant creating our lives, like trying a new hobby or trial-by-error problem solving.  This meant developing a practice of bending our minds like some yoginis bend their bodies.

The basic instruction is to

• Identify and write down your heart’s desire (for kicks and giggles, go ahead and do that now.)
• Conceptualize and write down as many unique and crazy ideas to move you toward your heart’s desire until you come up with at least one that’s feasible.

Some of the ideas won’t work.  Change to reach your heart’s desire can be riddled with near misses.  And messes.

Sometimes coming up with new ideas is challenging.   This is where the mental yoga comes to play.

“As Einstein said, no problem was ever solved from within the frame of thought that created the problem in the first place. Creation always involves moving beyond the limitations of your current worldview.”
– Martha Beck, The Joy Diet

One of the exercises Martha Beck taught us in her “Inner Genius Workshop” was all about opening up our right brains to creating the lives we desire.

Here’s how it goes:

1. Write down a couple of your very favorite things to do.
2. Go back to that heart’s desire that you wrote down a minute ago.
3. How can you use your very favorite things to do to reach your heart’s desire?

As an example, the favorite thing I wrote at the workshop was to snow ski.  My heart’s desire was to gain some peace and clarity around an issue that had clouded my summer.   Not being sure how cruising in the snow could help, I was willing to play along.

I began to really think about why I love to ski.  There is a thrill in doing what is counter-intuitive to maintain control and speed.  You throw yourself over your skis and down the hill.  If you play it safe and lean back into the mountain, you’ll wear out your leg muscles, lose control and fall.  By staying in the moment with every turn, gravity and the fall line become your partners.

Fascinating.

It really didn’t matter what my heart’s desire was at this point.  What if I trusted my instincts and leaned down the mountain, into fear, and rode my intuition in regards to any obstacle or desire?  Issues might still temporarily cloud up a day, but as when skiing in low visibility conditions, I can feel my way down the mountain with focus and instinct.  Even on days like this, there’s a warm fire and good book waiting at the bottom.

I love that I’m now more creative than dry wall!

Why do you love your favorite thing?

How can it help you reach your heart’s desire?

The third menu item on this “diet” is Desire.

Not the “I’d sure like chocolate AND vanilla” kind of desire.  Instead, it's your heart’s desire.  The desire that shows up when life takes you by the hand and leads you toward your destiny.

“Sounds easy enough, doesn’t it? Birds do it, bees do it, even educated fleas do it… Any sentient being knows when it wants to eat, mate, run, sleep, or fight – any sentient being, that is, except most members of the human race. We are the only beasts in creation who systematically eradicate the knowledge of our own desire.”                – Martha Beck, The Joy Diet

So get comfortable in your moment of doing Nothing (menu item #1) and open yourself up to being truthful (menu item #2).  Then search around for a pebble of desire.  Once you find one, sit with it and visualize what it would be like to meet it.  Try and feel if it’s on the path to your destiny.

To illustrate, let’s explore the number one spoken desire of my clients:

“I want to lose weight.”

In a state of complete compassion and truth, and without judgment, visualize yourself and your life at your ideal weight.  What is it about being lighter that you would enjoy?  Would your doctor be pleased?  Are you finally happy in your own skin?  If the time consuming obsession over food and your body ended, how would you spend that time differently?

While inquisitively sitting in your vision, you might begin to see pieces of your true destiny.  You might also see some pieces that are less authentic, possibly false, but part of the story.

The below chart is from The Joy Diet (modified slightly for this example).  Continue to hold the “I want to lose weight” desire in your mind and see which column best describes your vision now and down the road.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight to impress friends that you haven't seen in twenty years at a class reunion.  The point is… if that’s the ONLY reason why losing weight is on your wish list, it will result in deprivation dieting, obsessing over food, inevitable overindulgence and the despair that whole downward spiral seems to bring.

The spoken desire of “I want to lose weight” acted out as if it’s the only answer to your happiness almost always ends up with false desire after-effects.

Here’s the good news:
There’s a bit of magic when it comes to following your true desire and losing weight.

Action upon your TRUE heart’s desires comes coupled with a desire to relax into your own body’s rhythm and to treat yourself with ultimate self care and love.  This will lead to a sense of fulfillment in your life.   It eliminates the need get full-fillment from food.

That’s the place we call “thinner peace.”

What true desire will bring you to this place?
Next week we'll get creative (menu item #4) about getting there.

Yesterday, I was going to write about “Truth” in the basic “tell the truth, it’s good for you” context.  Then I found myself in some pain and remembered that sometimes truths can be felt in your body before your mind even knows you’ve told a fib.

In Martha Beck’s The Joy Diet, absorbing a new truth about yourself is the second item on the menu.  The idea is to compassionately check in with your life.  Is there anything that you’re hiding from yourself or others that is keeping you from experiencing full time joy?

Truth digging is most effective on the heels of doing your daily 10 to 15 minutes of Nothing.  On Friday, I went through Martha’s six suggested questions with a touch of a temper and a side of Excedrin.

“What am I feeling?”

Like a giant pain in the neck.  Literally.   I’m also fidgety and unfocused.

“What hurts?”

I told you… my neck!  It’s a crick on the left side, coupled with a headache.

“What is the painful story I’m telling?”

If I were focused, I’d be able to tell a story.  There’s just pain.  No story. I haven’t had a crick in my neck like this since leaving my old j.o.b. back in January.  Now I remember how I used to feel on Monday mornings.

Fascinating.

I had agreed to step back into that life for a few hours that day to help them with a project.

While I was not spinning painful stories in my conscious mind, my body kicked in to tell me the truth.  I’ve looked back occasionally wondering what would have been different if I had stayed.  Now I know.  I really didn’t want to go back there.  I felt like I was about to waste a day of my life walking the wrong path.

“Can I be sure my painful story is true?”

No.  No experience is a waste.

“Is my painful story working?”

No. If I think it will be a waste, it will be a waste.  What a waste that would be!  And my neck hurts.

“Can I think of another story that might work better?”

First observation:  I do not feel compelled to eat my way through this like I would have a year ago.  I love this coaching stuff.  It, like, works.

Second observation: I left that job when I came to a fork in the road where the corporate world path and the one toward my destiny split. I made the right choice.  My neck just told me so.

As I drove away from that office building Friday afternoon, my headache died away and the tension in my neck eased.  Amazing what a good dose of Nothing and a teaspoon of Truth will do to turn a subconsciously wasted day into one of gratitude and thanksgiving.

I’ve been practicing this (almost) every day and never seem to run out of food for thought.  As a result, I have new friends, a new career, have lost weight and have emptied at a ton of clutter from my mind and home.  In other words… the truth will set you free and, quite possibly, turn your life upside down.

Next week we’ll add Desire to the mix.  I mean, if you're going to turn your life upside down, it should certainly be for something you desire!  Right!?

Until then, I'd love to hear about ways you uncover your truth.

Through a string of Twitter synchronicities, I stumbled upon a group of bloggers who are book blogging* through Martha Beck’s The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life.
Being that this is one of my all time favorite books, I couldn’t resist jumping in.

In the introduction, Martha writes:

“If you’re looking for ways to shed that potbelly or firm your buttocks, I’m afraid you’ll have to look elsewhere. As far as I’m concerned, your belly and buttocks are absolutely magnificent right now, not that I want you to send me photographs. This book contains instructions for a different kind of ‘diet,’ one designed not for the body but for the soul.”

While Martha is one of my mentors, and smarter than I’ll ever pretend to be, I have to respectfully disagree with one of her statements.  (Not that you aren’t magnificent.  Of course you are!  And, no, I don’t want pictures either.)

I believe this is the exact diet you DO need if food is your drug of choice to soothe your emotions.  Not only to shed pounds, but to keep them off permanently.  Once you have learned to nourish your soul, your body will naturally follow to that lighter place of “thinner peace.”   She is right that The Joy Diet is not a traditional “eat less, move more” instruction manual, but it’s funny how this works…

The practice of embracing Joy more leads to embracing Ben & Jerry’s less.

Here’s the run-down of the chapters.  We’ll cover one chapter each week.

• Nothing
• Truth
• Desire
• Creativity
• Risk
• Treats
• Play
• Laughter
• Connection
• Feasting

“Nothing” is my new favorite past time.  “Nothing” was the subject of this recent blog post!  Click here  : )

“Nothing” is also the key to tuning into your internal wisdom and developing the skill to trust your body. Your body knows what is best for you in terms of how to go about shedding those extra pounds.  To hear what it’s saying, though, you have to be still and willing.  To some of my clients, this is a really new concept.  It was for me when I started doing this work.  Doing Nothing will get you in tune with the voice of your body and soul.

Grab a copy and read along.  Only one chapter a week.  It will definitely help lighten your mental load.  It wouldn’t surprise me a bit if you lightened your physical load too.

* Jamie Ridler, who is hosting this blog fest, says that “The concept behind book blogging is that a group of bloggers work their way through a book, sharing their experiences by posting on their own blog and by reading what other participants are sharing. You can choose to share as much or as little as you like. The process is free, self-directed and shared in community.”